When children are silent: how to protect ourselves and not lose hope
The phone is silent. Day after day — silence. And the same question keeps coming back to my head:
“Why? Why have my own children, whom I raised, fed, and loved with all my heart, suddenly became strangers? Why are they silent, don’t ring, and answer dryly and without emotion?”

It’s like if the heart has shrunk to the size of a needle’s eye. A mixture of resentment, anger, and pain rages inside.

You want to scream at injustice, to accuse, to make demands. But where is the respect for yourself?

Let’s try to talk about this without reproach and bitterness. Let’s look for answers that don’t tear us apart, but rather bring us together again.

1. Acknowledge your emotions, but don’t let them rule you.
When children act cold or distant, a storm is brewing inside. This is normal—you are human.

Give yourself permission to feel everything: pain, hurt, disappointment. But don’t let these feelings determine your actions.

It’s important to keep your mind clear. Tell yourself,
“I’m hurting. I have a right to be hurting. But I’m not going to give myself to this pain.”
That’s not weakness—that’s maturity. That’s self-care.