✅ What to Say Instead:
“There are no words — but I’m here.”
“This is so unfair, and I’m heartbroken with you.”
“I don’t have answers — but I have my heart.”
💬 Sometimes, silence with a hand to hold is better than any sentence.
✅ What to Say (And Do) Instead
💬 Better Things to Say:
“I’m so sorry.”
“They will be deeply missed.”
“Tell me a story about them.”
“I brought a meal — can I leave it at the door?”
🤲 Thoughtful Actions That Speak Louder:
Bring food (and keep bringing it — grief lasts longer than casseroles)
Send a handwritten note weeks later
Mention the deceased by name
Offer specific help: “Can I pick up the kids?” or “I’ll handle calls this week.”
Final Thoughts
You don’t need the perfect words to be a perfect friend.
In the face of grief, presence matters more than speech.
So if you’re unsure what to say at a funeral…
keep it simple.
keep it kind.
keep it human.
Because the best thing you can offer isn’t advice, logic, or comfort.
It’s this:
“You’re not alone.”
And sometimes, that’s everything.
